PUBLISHED: Student & Campus Section, Manila Bulletin, 24 December 2008 Issue (Page G-2)
One of the unique things about our country is the fact that Christmas always starts much, much earlier here than the actual season does. I know for a fact that TV and radio hosts start hinting at it as soon as September, the first “-ber” month, begins. By the time we hit October, countdowns start appearing on our favorite morning shows, and commercials begin to have a Christmas-like feel.
When November rolls around, they start doing a variety of Christmas-related segments, like where to get your gifts and how to celebrate Christmas most economically. Households start putting up their decorations, friends start practicing their Christmas carols, and people in general are caught up in the spirited frenzy of Christmas shopping. It is an amazing phenomenon, since by the beginning of December it looks as if our country were one big Christmas tree, and we’re just waiting for Jesus to get born already.
This year, though, that atmosphere is noticeably absent—at least around the area where I live. Where the streets would usually be lit up with multi-colored Christmas lights, and noisy with those annoying Christmas carol tunes that manufacturers attach to them, the roads are as dull and quiet as they were all year long. The only Christmas carols I hear are from street children who knock on your car window in Quezon Avenue or pester you while you walk along Katipunan. Most of my neighbors haven’t even put up Christmas decorations.
In fact, if you were to come into my house you might think we had forgotten all about it. Save for one grey-colored wreath hanging on the front door and a couple of unopened gifts lying around in one of the corners, there is no sign that Christmas has entered this household. We didn’t even set up the Christmas tree.
The Christmas spirit seems to be dead.
But sometimes I wonder: what if you removed every single material manifestation that we have to remember Christmas by? Take away all the lights, the decorations, the commercials, the songs, and even the gifts. Would Christmas still be worth celebrating? Would Christmas still exist?
Last Friday at a Christmas party, my friend and I joked that you could boil down the true spirit of Christmas to gifts. And not in giving gifts, I said, but in receiving them. This is why in contrast to receiving, which is always unconditional (who wouldn’t want to get gifts?) we give gifts expecting something in return. This ’something’, of course, does not have to be material. It could be an emotion, like a feeling that someone is grateful, or putting a smile on someone else’s face. For this reason, Christmas is always partly selfish.
But I think that’s okay. I think everyone’s looking for something during Christmas, and that’s why the true spirit of Christmas depends on who you ask. For some, it is the chance to be with family you haven’t seen in a year. For others, it is the chance to be alone and get away from their own problems. Some look for love and the opportunity to be with someone special. Others look for forgiveness. Some people want to be able to finally complete the whole Simbang Gabi cycle. Other people, like me, don’t really know what we want for Christmas.
But the beauty of it all is that this season is just as much about receiving as it is about giving. You might not get exactly what you’re looking for, but it is that one time of the year that people are willing to collectively give, live, and let live—quite a remarkable feat for humankind. That is why miracles happen, why people find love, and why most people, even those who have nothing to smile about, can smile during Christmas.
The beauty of it all is that Christmas has always been about people.
That is why I don’t need to see decorations hung up or have gifts under the Christmas tree to feel the Christmas spirit. I just need to look around the dinner table, see the face of each member of the family, and I am reminded that whether or not it’s Christmas, I will always have a place to come home to.
Merry Christmas, everyone.


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